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Warning* Please note that what I'm going to write is just from my personal experiences and opinion, cannot be generalized to all people. If I offended anyone..here is a apology flower <l-{} =)
Wandering around a fourm and found an
interesting post asking about
how to know you are gay. Surpisingly,
many people claim that they
are biologically gay but somewhat
mentally or emotionally attach with
female. Hmm..from my experience,
I did go through this..
phase before I truly accepted who I am. In my opinion, this kind of thought
is non-sense or illusion because it's quite hard to be have sex urge for male, but..strong emotion attachment for female??
Some of them said maybe they are Bisexual.
However,
from my understanding, Bisexual means you
have sexual feeling for both male and female, just that the degree of which sex you prefer is different.
I used to have the thought that I am biologically Gay and mentally Straight,
but once I accepted who I am..the thought just diminished.
The fantasy of having
a pretty girl as girlfriend and happy life with her
..replaced by a hot guy..LOL. I really used to think find a girl and get married to continue my life since I have strong emotional attachment for girls.
We often
underestimate the power of our mind, when you keep
thinking gay is not really
acceptable in your surrounding, you tend to have this
false illusion that you have feeling for girl. Nonetheless,
your body tell you the different things. Huamn do have emotional feeling for both Male and Female,
friendship is also kind of emotinal attachment. For guys, there is also something call
Bromance, because you have the strong attachment for each other,
but that is not Romantic LOVE as couple. Having just strong emotional attachment does not mean you love her as a soul mate or beloved. It's not fair for that girl.
Deep down you still want to have
strong emotional attachment with guy, but your mind keep telling you it's wrong to like and love guy. You might think
sexual feeling is not important anymore when you are being with that person for very long time. Hey! You
never take away sexual feeling from romantic love, it is part of the relatioship. Who says when you are old, you cant have sex. It plays an important role in maintaning relationship. Some even said not felt happy and satisfied from the sex experience so don't think he is gay...HELLO..even 100% straight or gay guy also can't find that in every sex.
In the end, Researcher should find out is there really possible to be biologically gay and mentally straight........
Somehow quite curious about Bisexual