Came across an interesting article about friendship among gay. Is there a 100% pure friendship between two gays?? Hmmm...to me, I also can't guarantee it.
You see...when you looking for a gay friend, isn't that you will see whether you are interested or he sort of attracted you??? Like so many of us like to say...everything starts from friend ; ) xoxo...blah blah
Of course if the attraction is not strong enough then both of you stay as friends, but I agree with the author said. Sometimes it's quite hard to draw a clear line between friendship and romantic relationship. You have to handle it carefully without crossing that line.
If you don't handle well, it is either no more friendship (eg. keep distance) or more than that. Maybe you think it's very easy, but don't underestimate the power or pressure from people around you. Sometimes they indirectly make you choose either become acquaintance or a couple. Espeacially you got your bf ady.
* Thanks to soul232, I need to clarify something. The author took the viewpoint from Straight people and apply on us. Actually, there is no doubt straight also have this kind of situation. Well, in the end we as human got thing coded in our DNA, see opposite sex (for us is same sex la but theory still the same) will automatically see as potential mating partner first. Just how strong is the attraction and how you distinguish and categorize as friend or potential lover.
I of course belive pure friendship exists....just try to figure out that what made us think or categorize he is friend or potential lover in the first place?? =)
Again, a nice statement from the author - Actually, the existence of pure friendship is not important, the most important is how to keep it as friendship while don't let it deteriorate or "upgrade".
exactly.. i think there's no 100% brother type of gay friends lo.. sure end up in bed
ReplyDeleteHaha...sounds like you will end up in bed with all of gay friends xD
Deletei want the one in bluuueeeeee!!!!!!!! =p
ReplyDeletewell, wonder why when it comes to gay, a lot of people become pessimist kinda. Why people never think the same bout straight; just like they dont simply bang any girl they meet up, why should we. hahaahaha
Hhaha..you can take him.
DeleteWell, I diagree with you. You think Straight ppl don't have that thoguht?? They are just same as us, just that they don't bang anyone because it's out of league or not attractive enough. If a straight guy have a pretty female friend, you really think he doesn't have that thought?? evne though just a split second to think it.
i know the thought will be there but they still can be good friend right. just like u, ur best friend is a girl, no
DeleteHuh??? of course they can be friend, even though have the thought. Just that the other party don't feel the same, that's why no chemistry so became as friend =)
DeleteAnd...my best friend is a girl..so.?? I'm not attracted to girls that's why can be BBF easier...not?? Confuse >.<
Bff* xD
DeleteI kinda agree to the last statement said by the author but there are true friendships for us. Be it straight or gay, we're still humans and we need friends. Otherwise, all gays would be friendless wouldnt it? xD
ReplyDeleteYes!! Friends are very important in everyone's life =)
DeleteYup, there is a thing called pure friendship.
ReplyDeleteAm still friends with my gay bffs for more than 10 years now...
:)
I believe it also!! =D
DeleteWow...so nice!!! Jealous~
I don't know. I don't have much close gay friends.
ReplyDeleteAiks...why sounds so sad. Is okay as long as got close friends regardless gay or straight. =)
DeleteSo busy.... :p
ReplyDeleteI think there is gay best friends. It just depends on how you take that person as friend instead of someone to sleep with. Of coz appearance do play a part but I think friendship wise it shouldn't be a concern. I've got some very close gay friends that we share lots of stories ;)
Yup..even though appearance but it's the inner part keep both as close friends =) Wah..so nice..got so many close gay friends ; )
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