Well, I met this kind of case, but it's totally change my view about it. I was chatting with my close friend and suddenly went to about her bestie's issue. Let's called her Y
Y's boyfriend broke up with her. Why? because she wanted him spend more time with her and of course asked THAT question. At first, my reaction was..Oh well, another annoying and unconsiderate girlfriend...BUT listening to her background it made me think a lot.
"Y's parents divorced since she was young and her mother hardly to contact them. Her relationship with the only sister also not good and sister also got her own life to live on. Dad? Busying with his young girlfriend and work, conversation with her dad mostly about money only. Granparents? Not around them. She also doesn't have many friends."
Everything all make sense now..I was like "No wonder..." I can imagine every night she goes back to her house..it's purely empty and loneliness kicks in. The only thing she craving for...is LOVE. Her boyfriend also doesn't really know about her family thing as she felt embarrassed to talk about it.
Most of the time perpective taking is very important in relationship, if the boyfriend took more effort to understand her, maybe everything would be different. Of course, I'm not saying the boyfriend just follow whatever Y wants, at least put more effort to let her know keeping him all the time doesn't mean love her more. My friend should also tell her she always besides her since they are bestie....sigh well I'm a outsider..can't say much.
It's two way thingy...she also has to be honest about her feeling and talk with him truthfully while the guy needs realize the reason behind the behaviour....well, relationship always seems simple yet complicated when take action...
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