Well, I met this kind of case, but it's totally change my view about it. I was chatting with my close friend and suddenly went to about her bestie's issue. Let's called her Y
Y's boyfriend broke up with her. Why? because she wanted him spend more time with her and of course asked THAT question. At first, my reaction was..Oh well, another annoying and unconsiderate girlfriend...BUT listening to her background it made me think a lot.
"Y's parents divorced since she was young and her mother hardly to contact them. Her relationship with the only sister also not good and sister also got her own life to live on. Dad? Busying with his young girlfriend and work, conversation with her dad mostly about money only. Granparents? Not around them. She also doesn't have many friends."
Everything all make sense now..I was like "No wonder..." I can imagine every night she goes back to her house..it's purely empty and loneliness kicks in. The only thing she craving for...is LOVE. Her boyfriend also doesn't really know about her family thing as she felt embarrassed to talk about it.
Most of the time perpective taking is very important in relationship, if the boyfriend took more effort to understand her, maybe everything would be different. Of course, I'm not saying the boyfriend just follow whatever Y wants, at least put more effort to let her know keeping him all the time doesn't mean love her more. My friend should also tell her she always besides her since they are bestie....sigh well I'm a outsider..can't say much.
It's two way thingy...she also has to be honest about her feeling and talk with him truthfully while the guy needs realize the reason behind the behaviour....well, relationship always seems simple yet complicated when take action...
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if only she told the boyfriend why she asked for that, it might have not ended that way. Ah well, we will never know
ReplyDeleteWell, she felt embarrassed to talk about the reason or maybe she even doesn't realize the real reason...
DeleteAnd for that reason they broke up? herm... well, sooner than later...
ReplyDeleteOMG!!! THAT PUPPY!!! SHU CUTE!!! *MELTS* awwwwwww
Maybe it's not the first time Y keep asking that or the guy doesn't deserve her? Well, I don't know full story from another side so...can't judge =(
DeleteI know right!! So cuteeee!!!
no one is perfect, some people have needs more than the others.. some people doesnt know how to put the right words out and mess up the whole situation.. some people are jsut not good with words.. but we cant blame anyone.. cos not everyone is understanding, cos not everyone has no problems at all..
ReplyDeletei am selfish, im attention seeker, im lazy, im disgusting, i fart and burp everywhere.. but im also a good listener, a good talker, and a good friend who could break any dark clouds with my spit... if i meet another guy who is just like me, we probably wont get along cos of the competition or we would really crack on really well and be best buddies for life... and of course there will be lots of farts and burp...
anywayyyyyyyyyyyy..
from all the huraian di atas yang mendapat banyak markah dalam bidang elaboration in writing essay competition, it all boils down to the next sentence! :)
some times things just happen, some times it just doesnt :)
what will be will be... lalalalalala....
i is talking nonsense again.... muahahahahahahahahaha
=.= not sure whether in real person you also that talkative with machine gun speed.
DeleteI can see your point, I guess they are not meant for each other.
let me answer ur query. He is! hahaha
Deletelet me add on to the, he is, but in a good way =D
DeleteTo have a healthy life, needs to have a balance diet. Vice versa, a healthy relationship should have all elements balanced.
ReplyDeleteYa..but sometimes people not willing to put more effort to balance all, they think it will balance by itself..
Deleteawww that puppy is sho cute
ReplyDeletein relation to Y's issue a 2 way discussion is always needed in a relationship.
DeleteYa..they really need
DeleteI feel sorry for Y but at the same time, I think the guy has made a wise decision to break up with her. A boyfriend is not a doctor, he is not trained to solve all your inner unhappiness(This only happened in fairy tales). Besides, A person cannot rely solely on his partner for happiness and be possessive. That is selfish and unhealthy. In my opinion, he/she needs to have a balanced source of happiness such as work, play, friends, hobbies, etc. I strongly recommend Y to seek help from counselling because a Mr perfect will not appear from no where just to save her. That is a unrealistic expectation. Her boyfriend will be miserable if she does not change this attitude. Well, I talk too much.. Oops!!!
ReplyDeleteAs I said, perspective taking, if the boyfriend knew the reason and really love her, at least try to let her understand something. Of course as you said, not a doctor or counselor, but give it try not many relationships need give and take. If the boyfriend still couldn't help her then it's time to break up
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