A recent psychological research found that those people who have stronger belief of soulmate, have the higher chance to easily breakup. In other word, those who don't believe in soulmate, most probably have longer and lasting relationship.
Why? This is due to if people believe in soulmate, they tend to find someone who is perfectly match with them. When they find their partner doesn't meet what they want, they are more easily to end the relationship.On the other hand, people who don't believe in it, they are more likely to understand & know relationship needs a lot of efforts and compromise to sustain it.
Of course, it doesn't mean you can simply find a guy as long as you know how relationship works. There are also some fundamental things, which both of you have to be matched. Just you can't think that you can find a guy everything also matches with you and meets your criteria.
When you like a person, you like the good sides of him. However, when you truly love him, you accept his flaws, and embrace his imperfections.
Do you think those couples who have been together for 30 years, is perfectly match to each other? They went through the hardest trial - Time. Love itself is not enough, we don't know how many quarrel they had, how many times they wanted to breakup. Nonetheless, they managed to find a way to give and take, calm down, compromise, then continue staying together with no regret.
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| How I wish my soulmate was either of them. Okay stop dreaming!!! |
true love is about appreciation, and not about possession, true love gives freedom, it doesn't stop us from growing, i do believe in soul mates, as in people who are destined to be with us, but i don't definitely believe in perfect matches, because for me, love is something that just happens, it's not a decision, when you fall, you just fall, and the secret for a long lasting relationship,i believe is unconditional love without expectations, and the acceptance that nobody's perfect and everyone has flaws...last but not the least, when a person falls for someone's inner beauty, it will simply be a beautiful affair, since inner beauty doesn't fade....
ReplyDeletewell, that's my honest opinion, besides, love is a complex thing, and different people have different views on it....
hank you so much for your honest opinion = )
ReplyDeleteYa..true. The research just pointed out what may happen if believing in soulmate. It can't be generalize to everyone. I still believe in soulmate, but will differentiate soulmate is not equal to Mr Perfect. I also can't agree more on unconditional love without expectations, but it's very hard for people have no expectations on their partner. I think just need to be least expectations will do as well. Love can't be defined or understood completely, love is simple for someone but complex for others.